Women Are Not Superheroes: Invisible Labor and the Moms Doing It All
From You're Not Too Much · 20:56
Show by Lauren "L2" Howard
This episode is sponsored by ParentAgent. Founder Barbara Ballard spent twenty years in UX and still missed her own kid's early dismissal. So she built ParentAgent. It reads the school and activity email and hands you the list — school, camp, sports, both kids. It doesn't train on your family's data, doesn't sell it, and you can delete all of it. It’s free to start, at parentagent.io/L2.I was people watching at a hotel breakfast when a whole family came down.Everybody had a little pink on their cheeks. Everybody was clearly covered in sunscreen. Except the mom, whose back was so red it looked painful to the touch.Somebody made sure that everybody else at that table had the right amount of sunscreen. And literally no one there had her back.It's called invisible labor for a reason. Nobody sees you doing it. But that doesn't mean it isn't happening.So, women are not superheroes. If you are calling a woman a superhero, it is because you are not also taking the time to ask her what she needs. Stop being impressed. Take something off her plate.Also: I made my favorite drink at home, saved $57, and now I need a $150 ice machine.Then on Ask L2, a listener asks whether infinite love, finite space applies to people who pay her. You're allowed to have boundaries with everyone. Including your boss.00:00:53 Two trips, one weekend00:01:40 The best Coke I've ever had in my life00:02:11 A big family or a donkey00:02:53 Everybody had sunscreen00:04:18 Everybody except her00:04:58 Nobody had her back00:05:12 It's called invisible labor for a reason00:05:29 That's not a vacation. That's a trip.00:05:50 Stop being impressed. Take something off her plate.00:06:47 She has a partner00:07:31 Women are not superheroes00:07:59 If you see a woman doing it all00:08:15 I found a drink I really like00:08:58 Why does a $16 salad taste better?00:09:51 Proper hydration for the first time ever00:10:30 Sonic Ice00:11:35 Do I spend $150 to save money?00:12:30 The cheap ones get moldy. Delicious.00:13:09 Internet, do I need an ice machine?00:13:25 Ask L2: infinite love, finite space, at work?00:14:02 Boundaries at work are important00:15:28 You can love them and hold a boundary00:15:54 What you're allowed to say00:16:30 I felt bad that I didn't feel bad00:17:09 Your job shouldn't be about love00:17:26 How could you have hives if you've never had bees?More at yourenottoomuchpodcast.com · Leave me a voicemail at yourenottoomuchpodcast.com/voicemail
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