Low Libido, Emotional Labor, and Why You're Quiet Quitting Your Marriage

From The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins · 20:18

Show by Dr Jordin Wiggins ND

Three clients in two weeks. Same conversation each time. And each time they heard it, it took their breath away. You are overcompensating for a problem that you didn't create. And not only that, it's gonna cost you your sleep, your health, your pleasure. There's an awakening happening right now, and our bodies are not letting us fake it anymore. Not in career, not in the bedroom, not in relationships, not in friendships. And if you are a high-achieving woman who cannot figure out why your pleasure has gone offline, this one is for you. Your low libido is not a defect. Your pelvic pain is not a defect. The recoil, the ick, the quiet dread you feel when you climb into bed at night because you don't want him to want to have intimacy with you, none of this is a malfunction. It's data. Female arousal is context dependent, full stop, and the pleasure centers in your brain go offline when you are dysregulated and managing too much, and you don't feel safe. That is not a character flaw. It is biology. We also get into quiet quitting in relationships, what it actually looks like, why women have been doing it for generations, and why letting go of the rope might be the first real step toward healing. And the question that cuts through all of it: whom are you healing for? 2 spots remain for summer private coaching. Apply HERE If you want to go deeper on super traits, over-functioning, and building a pleasure-centered relationship and life, the Pleasure-Centered Society on Substack is where that work lives. Join HERE And if you want to understand the specific dynamic you're inside, the Pleasure Path Assessment is a private one-on-one deep dive. BOOK NOW. CHAPTERS 0:00 You are overcompensating for problems you didn't create 2:15 The superwoman pattern and the trap of not being enough 5:10 Centering male desire vs centering your own pleasure 8:25 Why your low libido is actually data, not a defect 11:40 How domesticity and power dynamics impact desire 14:50 Quiet quitting in relationships and letting go of the rope 17:35 What happens when you stop overfunctioning 19:45 Distinguishing your work from their responsibility 20:05 How to reclaim your pleasure-centered life

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