75. When Talking Calmly Still Doesn't Work

From Your Calm Parenting Path · 14:30

Show by Nina Visic

You've kept your voice calm, asked nicely, asked again, and your child still isn't listening. This week, Nina shares a swimming-week morning from her own house and looks at what might really be going on for your child when calm words aren't landing, plus a few ways to respond that fit the moment.You'll Learn:The story we tell ourselves when our child isn't listeningCommon reasons kids don't respond, from deep focus to scratchy socksThe "won't or can't right now?" questionConnection, support, clear limits and play - and when each one helpsWhy one script can't cover every child Why This Episode Matters: If you've done the reading, tried the tactics and still feel like nothing you say works, you're not alone. So much parenting advice is written for an average child, and you're raising your own. This episode helps you start from your actual child, in your actual house.Small Shift for Big Impact: Next time your child doesn't respond when you've asked calmly, notice the story that pops into your head. Is it "they're ignoring me" or "they're being difficult"? You don't have to do anything with it yet, just notice. Then, if you can, ask yourself: is this a won't, or a can't right now?Take the Next Step: Take Nina's free Parenting Clarity Quiz. It's six quick questions, takes about two minutes, and gives you a result that puts words to what's been going on for you, with an idea you can use straight away. Get this small shift started today. Links and Resources:Take the free Parenting Clarity QuizRelated podcast episodesEp 68 - Same Problem? Four Parents, Four Different ReasonsEp 72 - Why the Smallest Thing Tips You Over at 5pmEp 5 - Can Connection Really Help Your Kids Listen Better?Related blog postsWhy Don't My Kids Listen to Me?Morning Routine with Kids: 5 Things That Save Our Sanity Let's Connect:Want more support? Follow Nina on Instagram, or sign up for tips and updates at mindfulparentinglifestyle.com.au.Have a question or parenting challenge you'd like addressed on the podcast? Send a DM or an email.Follow Nina on InstagramWebsite: mindfulparentinglifestyle.com.auEmail: [email protected] the Host: Nina Visic is a mindful parenting coach and mum of three boys, and the host of Your Calm Parenting Path. She helps overwhelmed parents move from reactive to calm and connected, drawing on her training through the Mindful Parenting Course and years of coaching families through the everyday moments that test their patience. Like a lot of parents, she knows the frustration of asking calmly for the fifth time on a busy school morning, which is exactly where this episode started.⭐ Not sure where to start? ⭐Take the free Parenting Clarity Quiz. It's two minutes, six honest questions, and you'll get a result that actually names what's going on for you right now, not a generic label. 🧡Take the quiz here.

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