EP9-S5 Something Can Be Off Without Being Wrong

From The Recalibration · 36:55

Show by Julie Holly

Nothing's really wrong with my life, so why does something feel off?Something can feel off without anything being wrong, and that feeling is often a small signal worth listening to rather than a problem to fix. When you stop explaining these moments away and look for the pattern underneath, you get room to notice what is driving you and to choose differently.Your life doesn't have to go off the rails for something to feel off. It can show up alongside real gratitude for your people, your work and what you have built. Julie explores the small signals capable people tend to explain away (hangry, tired, overwhelmed, reaching for something sweet or salty) and how an occasional moment can quietly become a pattern.Through her own story of how hard it once was to reschedule a single appointment, Julie shows what can sit underneath an ordinary decision: a fear of disappointing people and losing belonging, a worry about looking incapable, and rules created earlier in life that no longer fit. She shares the rock-bottom season that changed her perspective, the question that helped her and her clients (if you were taken offline by a health crisis, what would happen?), and how noticing others reschedule with her revealed that rescheduling can be an act of dependability and integrity. She also describes how Richard Schwartz's Internal Family Systems helped her see her protective parts and reclaim capacity.Where this meets Identity-Level RecalibrationThe episode walks one small signal through all five stages of the pathway, with about 20 seconds of reflection space after each question. Recognition notices what you tend to dismiss. Release explores what a familiar response has been protecting. Reclamation keeps what still belongs. Reinforcement practices noticing in an ordinary day. Renewed Momentum asks what you might do with the capacity you reclaim.Reflection for the weekWhat have I been explaining away that deserves a little curiosity?One thing to carry forwardYou don't have to wait until life goes off the rails to listen to what feels off. Listening doesn't commit you to changing everything. It gives you room to notice and choose.Referenced in this episodeStephen Porges, creator of polyvagal theory: Polyvagal Theory: Why You Feel So Anxious All the TimeRichard Schwartz's Internal Family Systems (IFS)Find this episode's reflection questions at julieholly.com/podcast/something-can-be-off-without-being-wrong.If this conversation helped you, please follow or subscribe, and leave a rating or review so someone else can find the show.Remember, this is a daily journey, and you're exactly where you need to be today.Some links are affiliate links. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases, which helps keep this show free.Work with JulieGet Curious: walk the recalibration pathway with your own changing condition through this free guided reflection, no sign-in or email required. Try it at julieholly.comRecalibration Conversation: a free conversation with Julie to talk through what’s shifting for you right now. Schedule at julieholly.coThe Recalibration Collective: Julie’s community for high-capacity humans, with two monthly trainings and a book club. Join here

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