Segment: If You Can't Talk About Sex, You Can't ENJOY It

From Unbroken Podcast with Richard Akita · 10:03

Show by Konnected House

You can do everything right. You can love your spouse with everything in you. But if you don't understand that sex is not just an act but an art that must be learned, if you don't communicate openly about what your body needs and how it responds, and if you're not intentional about breaking the silence that keeps couples from experiencing true intimacy, you'll miss the foundation that holds everything together. In this deeply vulnerable, profoundly insightful episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with Angela, a relationship and intimacy expert, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what it takes to build sexual intimacy in marriage, why 85% of Ghanaian married women have never experienced orgasm, and the uncomfortable truth that we give fake names to body parts when we are kids so even when a child is abused they can't express that he touched here or there. Angela holds nothing back. She breaks down why sex is an act and an art that you have to learn to perform well, why we are conscientised from childhood that sex is something you can't talk about and even the body parts you can't see without being labeled bad or spoiled, and the one thing most couples refuse to accept: when two blind people lead each other they fall into the gutter because you can't openly go to your parents to ask questions about relationships so you end up talking to your friend who is also going through the same thing. She reveals why seeking knowledge becomes a problem because people don't want to be found out and they don't want anybody to see them as being spoiled, how she spent four whole sessions with a married woman who felt giving her husband a blowjob was dirty and wrong, and the moment that woman finally understood that it's not dirty because she's not doing it to any other man than her husband and it is not sin. She also explains why that woman walked up to her husband one day pulled his pants down and started it and the excitement on his face blew him off, how she didn't feel any sense of guilt or shame because she came to the point of understanding that it's her husband and his body is for her and her body is for him, and the one thing every woman needs to know: if you didn't seek out to be taught the act and the art you wouldn't perform it. This isn't just sex education. It's a masterclass in understanding why sex is actually for women not for men because the man does more of the job and has so many places to touch and so many sensations from the head to under the feet but for the man he doesn't even mind he just enters and he's okay so far as he comes, why if you have a partner who takes time to work on your body you will take joy to the fullest because he's treating your body as a treasure and worshiping you by how he touches you, and how you can see a man and know this man I am nothing to him by how he touches you or treats your body. Angela dives into why the orientation and foundation is flawed because when they are having sex the woman doesn't say to the man you're doing it right you're doing it wrong so the man goes in does what he needs to do and then he's done and she never enjoys it, how 85% of Ghanaian married women have never experienced orgasm which is a shame on men but also on women because we are also responsible for that, and the uncomfortable reality that if you want satisfaction and your partner touches you a certain way you didn't like you should be able to talk to them and say I would prefer you touch it this way but a lot of women are quiet about it. She also tackles why some women truly don't know and some don't want to hurt his ego because some men feel hurt by that so they'll rather keep quiet and be served and he gets off and she'll finish it off, how for those who don't finish it off cheating can come in because they can't contain it for so long and they go somewhere that the man treats them and gives them the attention they want, and the one thing every couple needs to understand: some don't have the intention to cheat but it happens and they regret badly because they didn't mean to cheat they don't know what happened they got into that space and felt wanted. If you're married, wondering why sex feels like a chore instead of a joy, or asking yourself how to communicate what your body needs without hurting your partner's ego, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop hiding behind the closet and start seeking the knowledge you need to learn the act and the art so both of you can experience the intimacy you were meant to enjoy. Guest: Angela ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST

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