Why Do We Pull Back From the Things We Really Want?
From Inner Voice · 48:45
Show by Odette de Beer
My book was ready about twelve months before I published it. I kept finding something else to change, and the sentence running through my mind was “my name is on it”. From the outside it looked like I was still working on the book. On the inside I was delaying being seen.In this episode Liezel and I talk honestly about why we sometimes retreat from the things we most want, just as they become possible. We talk about the stories we tell ourselves, the difference between a good idea and a God idea, and why it helps to separate a task from the feeling we have attached to it. We also spend time with Peter, who denied Jesus three times and was then trusted to feed His sheep, and what that says about failure and grace.In this conversation:• Why a finished piece of work can sit in drafts for a year• Liezel’s question: is what I’m already stewarding valuable enough?• Peace that holds in the middle of fear, rather than peace as the absence of difficulty• Separating the task from the feeling, with two practical ways to do it• Asking “what if it goes right?” with the same seriousness as “what could go wrong?”• Learning to ask God questions, and to stay quiet long enough to listenA reflection for this week: think of one thing you have been postponing and finish this sentence for yourself. “If I take the next step, I’m concerned that…” Then ask whether that concern calls for a genuine change, some support, or an honest step forward. If you’d like to, tell us in the comments what you discovered.Scripture we mention: Psalm 139:14 · Proverbs 31:16 · Genesis 3:1 · Colossians 3:15 · Mark 4:35–41 · Jeremiah 29:11 · Haggai 2:4 · Luke 19:13 · Genesis 39:2–3 · Luke 22:54–62 · John 21:15–19 · Philippians 4:6The book I talk about at the start is The Catalytic Code: https://amzn.asia/d/08nn0yKX This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit odettedebeer.substack.com/subscribe
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