If You Can Huh, You Can Hear
From Quote Mining · 13:43
Show by Ryan and Leslie
How do you know when someone is really listening to you? And why do we answer people before we’ve actually processed what they said? In this episode of Quote Mining, Ryan and Leslie dig into another listener submission from Ashley B.: “If you can huh, you can hear.” They talk about how a glance at a phone puts slack in the string between two people, students packing up their bags ten minutes before class ends, and why a public speaking class is just as much about being a good audience. They also confess to needing naps (with Property Brothers or Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives on loop) after a full day of conference listening. From there, they unpack the difference between hearing, which is automatic, and listening, which is an active sport, plus the internal “noise” like hunger and anxiety that keeps a message from landing. The saying has no known author and seems to have been passed down as folk wisdom, most likely by a tired parent, but it also turns up as the title of a Mos Def track. Along the way they cover calling people out when they aren’t listening, rehearsing your reply instead of hearing the other person, and why you can’t really have a conflict without listening. Along the way, they consider a deeper question: if hearing is automatic, why is listening so exhausting? Because maybe the quality of our relationships depends less on how often we speak and more on how well we listen. And maybe the better question isn’t “Did you hear me?” but “Did you actually listen?”
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