Why Demanding Time With Your Grandkids Backfires
From Untethering Shame · 00:05:54
Show by Kyira Wackett
Many parents assume that becoming a grandparent guarantees them unlimited access to their grandchildren. But access is not automatic. It is not a right. It is a privilege, and it depends on the relationship you have with your adult child.When grandparents demand time with their grandkids or go around their adult child's boundaries, it often backfires. Instead of closeness, it creates distance. Because at its core, this is not just about your relationship with your grandkids. It is about your relationship with their parent.In this episode I walk through how to earn the trust that opens that door:Respect your adult child as the parent, even when you do not agree with their choicesAsk, do not assumeInvest in your relationship with your child, because a strong grandparent bond flows through a strong parent-child relationshipSet your own boundaries so you can give that love in a way that is sustainableThe role of a grandparent is earned, not given. It is about relationship, safety, and security, not entitlement on any side.I know there is nuance here. Safety concerns like substance use are a different conversation, and they deserve to be examined. If your situation does not fit neatly into these themes, book a free discovery call and we will look at your specific sticking points.Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/adversityrising/discovery-callMore: https://adversityrising.comThis episode closes out my series for aging parents. If you have a question I did not cover, leave it in the comments.
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