Safe Space Is a Buzzword: What Real Community Actually Looks Like
From Messy Liberation: Feminist Conversations about Politics and Pop Culture · 57:55
Show by Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown
Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown break down what actually makes a group of people a community — not just a paid membership or "safe space" buzzword. On this episode of Messy Liberation, they unpack why comfort and safety get conflated (especially by white women), why "we don't talk politics here" silences the most marginalized voices in a space, and what harm repair and restorative justice look like when done right. Plus: the stories of the best communities they've ever been part of, from a virtual event where a host let Resmaa Menakem rest mid-talk, to a nonprofit that gave staff the day off after a police shooting, to the friends who took Taina in when she was homeless.Timestamps:0:00 – Intro & follow-up from last episode0:34 – Why "community" became a business buzzword1:14 – Defining community: shared vision & culture-making4:46 – Trust, "ride or dies," and the buzzword of "safe spaces"7:07 – Feeling held vs. feeling safe9:00 – Why community isn't about being safe for everyone9:57 – Privilege, comfort, and what "safe" really means11:23 – True crime, privilege, and the illusion of safety12:06 – White women's tears: confusing comfort with safety14:02 – "We don't talk politics here" and who gets silenced18:19 – Threats to privilege vs. threats to safety18:56 – 2016 & 2020: white coaches shutting down callouts24:29 – Harm repair and restorative justice, set up front28:18 – Communities that got it right: affinity spaces & chosen family33:04 – Taken in when homeless: a story of real community34:52 – Black spaces vs. white spaces: the difference in care38:35 – The Resmaa Menakem story: modeling collective care live43:29 – A nonprofit that gave everyone the day off47:05 – The FEO community: emotional labor, race & accountability54:51 – Recap: discomfort isn't unsafe, and harm repair matters57:25 – Outro• "My Grandmother's Hands" by Resmaa Menakem: https://amzn.to/4r3bsMh• Rooted Global Village: https://rootedglobalvillage.com/🎤 JOIN US IN THE FEMINIST PODCASTERS COLLECTIVE: http://feministpodcastcollective.com/
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