Queering the Field
By Queering the Field
Categories: Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Comedy
Coming to you from West Hollywood California, welcome to Queering the Field, a show where a very queer and a very much in love married couple answer your questions about love, sex, queerness, kink, polyamory/non-monogamy, and why choosing to find joy at this moment in time is more than just a good time, it's life saving. Nālani Santiago (they/them) has been an enthusiast of, advocate for, and an educator of healthy, fulfilling, and shame-free sex and sexual expression since 1995. Erin (she/her) is a comedian, trans woman and a sexy sex enthusiast. Her comedy has been seen on the show The Last Open Mic at the end of the world, available on HBO and Adult Swim. In her latest special, Erin turns dating in LA into a live social experiment by looking for a date for the evening on Grindr onstage. Drawing on their own experiences navigating dating, love, identity, and long-term partnership, Erin and Nālani offer candid advice, thoughtful perspectives, and plenty of humor. From first dates and situationships to communication struggles and queer community dynamics, each episode explores real-life dilemmas with empathy, honesty, and a healthy dose of playful banter. Whether you're single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this is your weekly reminder that queer love comes in many forms and nobody has to figure it out alone.
19 episodes indexed on PodSearch.
Recent episodes
- Who Comes First, Hot Trans Girls & What Happened to My Kink?
This week, Erin and Nālani are tackling three questions that explore the complicated, occasionally confusing, and always entertaining world of queer relationships, dating, and kink. From relationship hierarchies to unexpected changes in our sexual appetites, we're digging into what happens when…
- Stealth Mode, Slap Happens & Finding Your Poly-People
This week on Queering the Field, we're getting into the complicated, the kinky, and the delightfully non-monogamous! Erin and Nālani tackle three listener questions about navigating life and love on your own terms.🏳️⚧️ To Stealth or Not to Stealth?A trans woman who passes easily wants to keep…
- Soft Doms, Poly Problems, & Not All Queers Spaces are Safe
Soft Doms, Dating Droughts & Drag Show DramaWhat happens when dating apps are full of mysterious Doms, your partner finds love while you're stuck in a dating drought, and a supposedly safe queer space turns out to be anything but? Erin and Nalani are back with candid conversations, cheeky…
- Good Doms, Fabulous Tits & Questionable Relationships
This week on Queering the Field, Erin and Nālani are serving up BDSM aftercare, gender euphoria, and a little polyamorous relationship drama—with a side of hot wife terminology!🔥 Caring for the Dom: Aftercare isn't just for submissives! Erin and Nālani discuss top drop, why Dominants can…
- Decoding Doms, Baby Queers and Deathbed Polycalypse
Queerly in Love — Episode 16This week on Queerly in Love, Erin and Nālani tackle three questions involving kinky first dates, queer identity, and the complicated logistics of being part of a polycule. In other words: kinky caution, queer confusion, and polycule complications.🔥 Meeting Your Dom…
- Testosterone, Temptation & Trouble
This week on Queerly in Love, Erin and Nālani dive into kink compromises, hormonal hijinks, and polyamorous plot twists. In other words: just another perfectly normal day in queer relationships. 😈First, they tackle a listener whose partner wants a vanilla relationship while they still have a…
- Kinky Bottoms, Tiny Thongs & Big Relationship Problems
Domming, Tucking & Relationship Nuclear Options 💥This week on Queerly in Love, Erin and Nālani tackle tops, tucks, and troublesome twosomes. We’ve got a kinky bottom wondering if he should become a Dom just to get dates, a trans woman looking for the secret to squeezing her bits into a…
- Paddles, Praise, & Poly Power Struggles
This week on Queerly in Love, Erin and Nālani tackle three very different questions about sex, relationships, and navigating the wonderfully complicated world of queer love.✈️ Kink at the AirportA long-distance couple is reunited—but someone wants to bring the BDSM toy bag along for the trip. Can…
- Don’t Lie, Don’t Out, Don’t Collar!
Queerly in Love — Episode 12 💕🏳️🌈Lies, Allies & Collars, Oh My! 😈This week on Queerly in Love, Erin and Nālani tackle three questions that prove once again that relationships are complicated, polyamory requires honesty, and a collar is not a Band-Aid for a fucked-up relationship.First up, we…
- Trans Validation, Total Domination & Third-Wheel Drama
💕 Queerly in Love — Episode 11 Show Notes😷 Masc Appeal, 🔥 Total Power Exchange & 💔 When the Third Wheel Goes Off the RailsThis week on Queerly in Love, Erin and Nalani tackle three questions about gender validation, BDSM, and the complicated feelings that can come with opening up a…
- Penis Atrophy, Pondering Partners and a Subpar Sir
Queerly in Love — Episode 10Penis atrophy, polyamory, and BDSM as a path toward healing? Oh my!This week on *Queerly in Love*, Erin and Nalani tackle three very different questions about relationships, bodies, kink, and communication. They discuss what makes someone a “partner,” what happens to…
- Orgy Approved Gaming Console, Gender Affirming Masturbation and DIY Dungeon
Queerly in Love — Episode 9 Show NotesEpisode OverviewThis week on Queerly in Love, Erin Mohr and Nalani Santiago tackle questions about making kink work in ordinary homes, gender-affirming masturbation, and managing sensory overload at your first orgy. Along the way, they discuss safety, consent…
- Relationships Are Weird as Hell
Queerly in Love — Episode 8Episode OverviewThis week on Queerly in Love, Erin and Nālani tackle jealousy, kink, virginity, forever fantasies, friendship, and the complicated experience of giving honest feedback to someone who’s recently transitioned.First up: Plutonic Panic is struggling with an…
- Kinky Asexuals, Pretransition Dysphoria and Sub Drop
Is BDSM all about sex? Would it be weird or intrusive of me to go to a BDSM dungeon looking to be tied up in a non-sexual way, just to see how it felt? BDSM is not all about sex, and what you’re describing is neither inherently weird nor inherently intrusive. Many people engage in BDSM for reasons…
- What's Your Poly Preferance and Am I Transgender?
Erin Mohr and Nālani Santiago help a listener decide their polyamory style and answer the question "Am I Trans?"Why do people choose ENM? It’s different for everyone because each relationship is unique to their experiences and desires but there are some key motivations: Emotional & sexual variety…
- Gatekeeping in the Queer Community and Sex Work as a Fetish
This week we've got a queer confused community and examine a sex work obsession.Coming to you from West Hollywood California, welcome to Queerly in Love, a show where we answer your questions about love, sex, queerness, kink, polyamory/non-monogamy, and why choosing to find joy at this moment in…
- Mommy Doms, Why Date Men and the Ethics of Ethical Non-Monogamy
This week we're talking about mommy vs daddy doms, the ethics of ethical non-monogomy and we answer the age old question "why date men?"Coming to you from West Hollywood California, welcome to Queerly in Love, a show where we answer your questions about love, sex, queerness, kink…
- Throuple Trouble, Badmouthing Bi Boys and An Analysis of Anilingus
This week we're theorizing throuples, dissecting bi boys and analyzing analingus. First up, the trouble with throuples.Coming to you from West Hollywood California, welcome to Queerly in Love, a show where we answer your questions about love, sex, queerness, kink, polyamory/non-monogamy, and why…
- Trans Chasers, Distance Domination and Poly Pandering Partners
This week we're chatting trans chasers and a poly pandering partner. But our first question is about domination from a distance. Coming to you from West Hollywood California, welcome to Queerly in Love, a show where we answer your questions about love, sex, queerness, kink, polyamory/non-monogamy…
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