Are You Rejecting Yourself Before Anyone Else Can? | Over to You

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Get in touch with us! What if nobody has rejected you yet... because you haven't given them the chance?Our first Over to You message comes from a woman who knows exactly what she wants.She's an artist. She's spent the last year and a half building and perfecting a website to sell her work. The paintings are ready. The website is ready.But instead of telling people about it, she's finding more reasons to wait.Because once people can see the work, they can judge it.They can say no.They might not buy.And somewhere along the way, she realised she'd found a way to protect herself from that possibility: reject herself first. In this episode, we unpack what happens when preparation becomes protection, why your brain wants evidence before taking the very action that could create it and how easily we can create problems at step 17 to avoid taking step one.We also explore the difference between appearing confident and actually feeling safe to be seen and why you don't need to become somebody else in order to put yourself out there. Because you might not know whether they'll say yes.But you need to stop saying no on their behalf. In this episode:Why rejecting yourself can feel safer than risking somebody else doing itWhen preparation becomes a very convincing form of hidingWhy you can't collect evidence without letting yourself be seenTurning one rejection into evidence that you're the problemAppearing confident vs actually feeling safe to be visibleCreating problems at step 17 to avoid taking step oneWhy certainty doesn't mean knowing everything will workMoving from “I'd love that” to “I intend to build that”Courage before confidenceThe one move that creates the possibility of a real response──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────THE REIGN WHEN IT'S RAINING RETREATDo you know what you really desire?Not what you should want. Not what makes sense on paper.What do you really want?And what happens when you think about it?Does something light up... and then your very persuasive brain gives you seventeen perfectly sensible reasons why maybe now isn't the right time?On Sunday 15 November, just 12 women will join us at The Spa Hotel in Tunbridge Wells for one immersive day to get honest about what you really desire, notice where you've been thinking yourself away from it and move from:“I want...” to “I intend...”There'll be breathwork with Abi, hypnosis with Dolina, brilliant women, two hours in the Wellness Suite and seven days of support afterwards to help you keep moving towards what you chose.Our intention is that you leave able to say:I know what I want.I trust myself enough to back it.And I know what I'm doing next.There are only 12 places, and bookings are open now.👉 BOOK YOUR PLACE / FIND OUT MOREYou've thought about it enough. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────📥 Resources & Next Steps💌 Join our newsletter She Reigns If you're a woman who knows she's made for more but keeps hesitating, overthinking or doubting herself, join our free weekly newsletter, She Reigns.Every week we share honest conversations, practical mindset shifts and reflections to help you trust yourself and take action. 🎧 Explore more episodes of How to Reign When it’s Raining 📲 Connect with us on Instagram: @reignwhenitsraining ⭐️ If you enjoyed this episode, please share it or leave a review - it helps more women like you find us!🎙️ OVER TO YOUTell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.Got something you've been going round in circles about? A decision you've made 12 times and talked yourself out of 13? A situation you're simply too close to see clearly?Tap “Get in touch with us!” above 👆 to send us a written message or leave us a voice message of up to 60 seconds.You can stay completely anonymous. If you send a voice message, just let us know whether you're happy for us to play your voice on the podcast or whether you'd prefer us to share your situation anonymously.You don't need a beautifully worded question.Just tell us what's going on. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────Episode Time Stamps:00:00 Welcome Back00:16 Over To You Format01:11 Artist Afraid To Launch02:33 Self Rejection Loop03:49 Control And Vulnerability06:38 Self Trust Over Evidence08:18 Gallery Rejection Reframe09:27 Visibility For Introverts11:05 From Desire To Intention12:47 Planning Versus Hiding15:03 Future Problems Trap16:09 One Brave Move17:30 Retreat Invitation19:34 Fear Of Success21:23 Closing And Call In.

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